New to Piecing II

[COG]

OK here's something I'd like to get some input on. There's a weed patch by the front door. W has been wanting to replant it for two years. Her and the kid's painstakingly pulled the old plantings and weeds last year. I recommended spraying them so they would'nt come back, and my idea was shotdown. Anyway, nothing was ever replanted so of course all the weeds and former plantings grew back.

This is one of those weekends that I have nothing planned so I've offered to work around the house. First I offered to finish stripping wallpaper in the bathroom. Her response, well OK if you want to. It's like pulling teeth to even get her blessing to strip wallpaper if you can believe it. She gets defensive or a little insecure because she started the job two years ago when it was just HER house and now I'm there and blah blah blah. So I'm going to do it anyways, and not worry about her insecurities.

Next I ask if she wanted me to spray those weeds in front to save them from pulling weeds again and they go just go straight to planting. NO! No explanation, nothing just NO! It's really hard living with a control freak! I'm an old farm boy and know how to deal with weeds and plants and things and it is so frustrating to be strapped into a child seat on this stuff.

Last year it was the lawn. Her lawn has looked like crap ever since she moved in five years ago. Why, simply because she did'nt water enough, and she cuts it too low in the summer. She's not one to tinker with things, change comes VERY hard for her. Last summer she was gone with the kids for two weeks and when she came home the lawn looked nearly new. I pampered it and gave it what it wanted and it just took off. What I get in return is attitude. She hates it when I do things for her, especially when I do them better. It's always been that way, since day one. Her insecurity shackles our M. It's much better than it was pre-separation, but she's doing a little back slide right now.

Sometimes I feel like she would prefer it if I came home, said nothing, did dishes, bring money, shut up, and go to sleep. Not to mention pretend that we're a happy couple at church and in public. Our beautiful R seems to be dwindling as the days go by and she does'nt want to talk about it, do anything about it, or even acknowledge it. Let's just be friends, co-parents, and stay together until the kid's are old enough. That's basically, sadly where we are right now. Her family motto is to NEVER discuss sensitive issues, reality, or have disagreements. Just ignore the problems and vent about relatives behind their back.

A pretty negative view from COG alright. Well if AmyC get's to vent today then so do I darnit. I'm gonna kick some ass today! I'm prayin for the courage to step outside the box. Run naked through the house, or do whatever it takes to change things up. I'm bored off my ass and I'm ready to stir things up a little.

Have a nice weekend yaall!

Love,

COG