Rebirth to a New Life II

[princess_nic]

(((Jeff)))

You know, there seems to be this idea around here that

(a) you are weak if you stop Standing, and

(b) Standing means actually doing something.

Both are wrong.

Jeff, you can Stand by doing nothing, if that's what you want to do. That does take some strength--mainly the strength to hold your tongue--but you don't have to actively DO anything.

OTOH, if you CHOOSE not to Stand, it doesn't mean you are weak. All it means is that you've had enough.

Your mother's illness and negativity, as well as your anniversary, have certainly had to affect you. You are tired. As you say, you have been drinking. Even if you've not been drinking huge amounts (hope not!), it can still leave you feeling down when you "withdraw" every morning.

I will say again what I said above: the only thing I see lacking here is a focus on YOU. And by that I don't mean GAL, necessarily; I mean taking care of yourself: getting enough sleep, eating healthy, a bit of exercise, time to do things you enjoy. When you are down, it is more important than ever to make sure you take care of those things, as they are so easy to put aside.

You are a man of value: Value yourself.

Hugs,
Nic