Making the leap - Hopefully wount Jinx it!

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it is hard, but possible. It took me good few months before Iwas able to think about it without feeling that punch in the stomach.
It will be hard, but with work it is possible to push away the nagging thoughts once you faced them. That's how healing begins, accept what happened, understand that As are desperate acts from miserable people, not a reflection of how much you were loved. Your brain makes thought paths, the A has a deep path in your brain now, the info travels fast when you conjured it. Someone here mentioned that painful memories are like streets, you down the road, you see the street, you fall into a hole, you get out -- next day you go down the same street, fall again. This goes on an on until one day you walk around the whole, and one day, you go down a different street.

The less time you spend dwelling on it, the less your brain will be used to take you to that painful place again. It does take time, don't despair, I know it hurts, but I promise it will be better.

I post this article often, hope it helps you:
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Emotionally Retarded Men in Love

About the only people more dangerous than philandering men going through life with an open fly and romantic damsels going through life in perennial distress, are emotionally retarded men in love. When such men go through a difficult transition in life, they hunker down and ignore all emotions. Their brain chemistry gets depressed, but they don't know how to feel it as depression. Their loved ones try to kee from bothering them, try to keep things calm and serene - and isolate them further

An emotionally retarded man may go for a time without feeling pleasure, pain, or anything else, untd a strange woman jerks him back into awareness of something intense enough for him to feel it - perhaps sexual fireworks, or the boyish heroics of rescuing her, or perhaps just fascination with her constantly changing moods and never-ending emotional crises.

With her, he can pull out of his depression briefly, but he sinks back even deeper into it when he is not with her. He is getting addicted to her, but he doesn't know that. He only feels the absence of joy and love and life with his serenely cautious wife and kids, and the awareness of life with this new woman.

What he needs is not a crazier woman to sacrifice his life for, but treatment for his depression. However, since the best home remedies for depression are sex, exercise, joy, and triumph, the dangerous damsel may be providing one or more of them in a big enough dose to make him feel a lot better. He may feel pretty good until he gets the bill, and sees how much of his life and the lives of his loved ones this treatment is costing.
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