What does it all mean??

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Hey Lonelyolive,
Sorry for hijacking your thread!!!

Aud, you have the right idea, and Theoden you're going to get there.

Slmom, I'll try to look for your thread and share anything I think might be helpful. I liked DR enormously (helpful when you're in separation or D) and I learned a lot from it. "Not Just Friends" and "Getting Back Together" were tremendsouly helpful for me too. They really helped me develop a healthy strong perspective about things. Now I'm reading "For Women Only" and another book on communication that are awesome.

I think reading a lot of books like these during times of relationship upheaval is crucial. It really helps one stay grounded, grow and heal. Do not show these books to your spouse!!! When I felt there was a particular section my husband might find helpful I did photocopy it leaving the name off (so he didn't know what book I was sharing). The problem with this is some spouses see it as controlling and oftentimes that's just what they are trying to escape. So in general I tried to avoid this type of thing...