MLCers who are visiting: I don't read the other boards, so I don't know what the tone is of the MLC board. However, from NJ's and cobra's comments I gather that group is very supportive, and that's great.
What is unique about this board-- and I don't just mean out of all of the boards on Michele's site, but of all the internet board I read (and there are a few)-- is that the discussion here is deep, probing, articulate, and backed up with reading/research in a way that I have never encountered anywhere on the internet or even IRL.
So maybe we don't hand out the warm fuzzies as much as we could/should, but we have read the articles/books, will listen (read) carefully to your story, and jump in with suggestions and analysis.
Cobra, you are a very smart guy, but sometimes your brilliant message is lost because of the language you use. I'm getting used to your "no nonsense" style and even getting to like it, but if you care whether you are understood by others who weren't married to you in a past life, consider how you phrase things. You may not care, and that's fine. Just an observation.
Shmagic, I have encountered men who do not want to know what pleases me in bed. When I have told them they ignore the suggestions or act like they know better than I what "should" please me. In my experience even a gentle nudge of the hand can be perceived by a man who is feeling vulnerable as a criticism. It's pretty aggravating for a woman, especially if you're really "getting into it" to make a suggestion either with a word or two or with a physical shift and have him react with huffing and pouting. And yes it does happen. I'm sure none of the men on this board have ever reacted that way... but it does happen. You WOULD think that a person WANTS to learn what turns their partner on. I remember asking my current bf for something pretty ordinary and having him react (and even at the time I KNEW it was out of his own insecutiry), "WELL! WHERE did you learn THAT?!?" Needless to say, that broke my concentration. (BTW, the best answer to that question is not: "from another partner," but "I saw it in a movie/read it in a book." Is that permissible dishonesty?)
