I have been acting more in " avoidant" mode to give my H the chance to be the pursuer. Initially, this was successful for us; my H had increased desire, and I felt good about adding some spice for him. But the more I avoid the sex, the more I set up a conflict within myself, because I really don't want to be avoiding. I am just not in the right head space to play with him in this way. But at least I tried.
