Cobra, thanks for the reply... I'm really wanting to understand you here.
So you're saying that your W's lack of understanding about the way men/boys good-naturedly tease/challenge each other leads to her 1) having contempt for the whole male gender because they are so dumb and have to express their tender emotions in this lame way; and 2) causes her to put up walls just in case they might try some of this stuff with her?
Re your example about the hypothetical partner, it seems to me that *I* might very well put up walls were I with such a partner, because he was expressing disgust about his interactions with females in his past. That's a far cry from a guy who conducted his teasing mostly with other guys, whether brothers, Little League teammates, fishing buddies, etc.
I don't see much similarity between the hypothetical partner's expression of contempt for the past females who were unlucky enough to be the receptacle of his lust and the guy who indulges in regular guy teasing/challenging/mild name-calling/shoulder punching, etc.
Are you saying that your wife would respond to these two different categories of behavior by putting up shields of the same thickness? (IOW that both extremes are just different-- but not really different-- examples of male dumbness and emotional ineptitude?)
