Some men are selfish in bed not all men are willing to do what the wife wants to give her pleasure. In cases like that the woman will become avoidant and the man more likely to look elsewhere. It's o.k. saying to the W tell him what you'd like him to do first but some men take offence IE. you're critisising them and they take it as a personal insult. Most men assume they are terrific lovers NOT always the case just because they are HD doesn't mean they are good in bed. Some men haven't a clue about long foreplay being necessary or that what turns on one woman might turn another off. A good lover will ask and not assume what worked before will work with a new partner.
Sex without foreplay can be painful for the W and this will result in her avoiding sex. O.K. the guys here sound as if they are asking the right questions and getting nowhere but were they selfish in the past. Please spare me no one complained before the W or P . It sounds as if yes NewJourney had some hang ups about sex but her H sounds like he wasn't big on asking her what she would enjoy before he looked elsewhere!
