Sorry to hear about the game and SIL going instead of you. That would definitely irritate me, especially if it was being withheld from me and H knew I wanted to go. I completely understand you being angry.
I (think)I read so much animosity in your post about H spending Sunday watching football. You seem very bitter over that, which I can relate. H's weekends (before he had to take a restaurant job temporarily) were filled mostly by VB and Football. It is a pain when they are consumed with other things besides us and the family, but that's where resentment on our part comes in. We need to curb that. You need to find something fun to do with a friends or family w/your kids and sometimes without if you can manage a sitter on Sundays. You also need to tell your H he needs Saturday duty at least every other week so you can do your thing. H needs to do his part and you need your free time. Find something to do.
Quote: ...know it's him anyway (who calls me?)
It seems like although I know you are very independent, you still rely somewhat on H for company and entertainment? I relate to that to. I can hear myself in your post. I know you moved further from friends and family but do you have anyone you can hang out with? You need a social life of your own and you need to commit time to it. Can you find a teenage sitter that you can pay reasonably when H is not available? That has been my saving grace, a teenage sitter! You said you've been able to spend money easier now right? A sitter is WELL worth the money.
I might be off base, but just seems like you've made H your focus and center, you need to redirect your focus and center on you.
I know communication is a core issue. Same with me and my H. We HAVE to learn to express ourselves and ask for what we want. I'm not very good at it either. I too feel it gets interpreted as me complaining and it gets tense. But we need to keep at it. I think it will get better with time. Just keep trying.
Hope you have a nice time at the movies and things can get worked out.
