Quoting lostlove: gee great..just tuned into the game again..and the pats won in overtime
Yeah... I am not watch the game, so that was a pleasant surprise...
Quoting lostlove: ....tra la la ...I am a sunday widow and my children are fatherless on sundays....oh how I am looking forward to feb when football is over and sundays can go back to the way they were over the summer!!!
Opps, I am so sorry...
Quoting lostlove:..."how did sil end up at the game?"
You know, this question was phrased in a way that would definitely invite a defensive reaction from the person being asked. How about...
Quoting RJJ: maybe say nothing at the time, somehow paint on a smile, then later, calmly and sweetly say "If you are ever looking for someone to go with you to the game, I would love to go".
And perhaps, if you really want to involve SIL in your convo, say like
"I thought I was a bigger fan than SIL and you (H). I would love to go out with you..." (with a painted smile, of course, and perhaps a bit seduction).
See the little bit difference? So hopefully this would eliminate the following reactions
Quoting lostlove:I react to it...all these years I have been accused of yelling at him and being the "bitch" I am now realizing that it is him...
This is sort of a repeat of my previous post (you might have missed it as it was posted right before you finished typing). Sorry for the bore.
Quoting lostlove: I am tired...I am depressed...I am lonley..I am hurt...and I don't know what I can do about it anymore and honestly I am tired of trying to fix this r.
I hear you. It sucks when you are the only one taking care of this R, while this is a two people business. But you know, this is the one you love, and you will shape this R so that your H will become more interested and vested in investing his energy into helping you to shape up the R...
Quoting lostlove: he is fun and all that..but apparently h doesn't know how to be in a r...or what family really means...I should have known..looking at his family...fil never knows where his wife is...but what can ya do.
I want to quote something you used to encourage me about my W's pattern to stray:
Quoting lostlove: just because w had a pattern in the past does not mean that pattern cannot be changed.
That was an inspiration...
Hope you can find a place for your own vacation soon.
