Good to hear from you again Dave. I always enjoy your posts.
I HIGHLY recommend voluntarily making a dramatic life change with a spouse in order to get better insights into the person you married
Me too.
All of us would love to have our spouse take more initiative. I think I'm still a bit sour-grapes that she's wired this way.
After reading this Ive been trying to remember my M SL. I think I would have to agree with you about the 90/10 split. Take heart in the fact that its 100/0 when you are single.
I dont know what to say about the fact that she is receptive, but not assertive or aggressive about her initiation. How is the frequency? When the frequency was high enough, we would often engage in PBTS type sex, making out, penetration, but no O for me, maybe a couple small ones for her (I couldnt really say for certain) but no focus by me on her having one. I get the feeling that when you ML without the O, it hits a couple areas. Primarily the one that demonstrates that you are not using her to get off. Secondarily.... That type of activity especially if really brief- say in the morning, would invariable lead to more and for whatever reason if she considered herself allready worked up, had no problem throwing down. I liken it to the constant 'temperture checks' and 'touching base' that they do verbally and emotionally. Quick. In and out.
Have you tried anything like that in conjunction with 'playful pushes'?
Im not going to encourage you to move back to where you vowed not to, or even move at all, but you need to extract out of her what is going on with her, resentment/need, thats not being handled. Pick a fight with her if necessary, that usually gets people honest.
Your in a foreign country. How has she done with the language barrier? Does she have female friends? Does she work? go to school?
