k so here is a really really dumb fight that shows how little h knows of how to be in a real r with anyone or how to fix mistakes that he makes...

h has had season tickets to the pats for years...he has shared the second seat with a different person a few years..for the past couple years it has been bil...a couple times this year when bil can't or doesn't go to the game he gives his ticket to his new wife who then goes with my h. does this bother me??? a tad...I'd like to go to the damn game with my h...not have him sitting there with the sil whom I no longer care for as she has been a catty little bitch to me over the past year and said things to me that are clearly not kind and it makes it all the worse when she gets to go while I sit at home..anyway...
the first game that she went to with my h...h told me..I let him know it bothered me...got over it whatever.

so last weeks game...h goes to game...comes home after and gee I celebrate the fact that he actually comes home (what am I dumb, I celebrate things that SHOULD be like there something magnificent) the next night we are home and h is telling me about bil's new fil's gang that also go to the games and how they do this and that while tailgaiting then mentions the fact that bil doesn't like to hang with the other guys as much anymore and would rather hang with the new fil...(gee a little plant so I don't ask why you were over at new fil's gang?)

so a week later we are at h's moms for dinner and exchanging secret santa gifts...h had new sil...got her some pats stuff at the pro shop that bil pointed out that she wanted (gee anther plant) sil opens gifts and says "I knew this stuff was for me...yeah right..try this on I have to get it for LL" I say "oh you were with them when they bought it?" "yeah I was with them." hmm

I then leave to take dd home..h comes home after with s, mil and fil...h and I leave to go to pty at my friends...I ask h...how did sil get to the game...(I had asked if there were any spare tickets as I wanted to go) h all defensive says to me....bil didn't go cause of bla bla bla so he gave sil his ticket...
well it ended up being a big ole fight...h pissed of...me pissed off...h denying hiding it from me and then blatently saying that he avoided telling me so he wouldn't hear any crap about it...couldn't and wouldn't understand how dumb I felt not having known who h went to the game with. h wanted to go home and make me go to pty alone...h actually turned the car around...it went on and on...we then got to the pty...h spent zero time with me..when we walked in the door...I don't even know where he went..the ride home was misserable as well...h pissed at me...being rude and demeaning to me..with more of the "who did you talk to" as if I need someone elses opinion about things to upset me with what he does and how he acts about things.


really all he had to do was tell me she was going...would it bother me...[censored] ya..I should be there with him not her...but at least I would have known...could he still have fixed it then...ya just say...it slipped my mind..I'm sorry I put you in that postion..I'm sure she didn't notice anyway..but no..h doesn't bother to be supportive of me and my feelings...h is just h.

h is now at the game again today...wonder with who this time.

h doesn't know what he has done...h doesn't know how to fix things..h wants to come and go as he pleases...go about his day and not bother to let me have a clue as to what he's done...where he's been... who he talks to etc. I do not know h's life and I think that is the way he likes it. I let h know this and his response is " do i have to give you and itinerary ever time I leave the house?"

h is at times
arrogant, controling, demeaning, and I am tired of it...why should I be the one to be on my best behaviour...keeping my mouth shut...suppressing my feelings...for his sake...so he'll be nice to me...why do I have to do all the work..while h just does whatever the hell he wants????

I want a real relationship and I don't think h is capable of it.
and h let me know that he won't be asking me to put my ring back on...I can put it on whenever I want to....well I informed him that I will do no such thing...that marriage is over...h asked for it to be over when he walked out the door..
h is so ignorant that he thinks I was simply bothered at the fact that sil went to the game...nope...is the fact that you hid it from me intentionally!!! what else are you hiding h..you want me to trust you? be comfortable with you? feel like I am a part of your life? then act like it...bet buddie knew who you were at the game with...bet you called him from there 100 times...why don't you go live with him...doesn't seem like his wife would mind much.
LL