Quoting lostlove: I would assume the courteous thing to do if you are going to leave the house (even if to go to the end of the driveway to chop wood) is to say...I'll be outside...but h went from the shower to the wood pile...h is again back to sitting in front of the computer listening to the pat's highlight clip from last season..
Again with the Mars/Venus thing. One of the ways we sort things out is to sit in front of the computer (or TV or fire or whatever) and stare.
Quote: I wanted to take a shower and h is now out side at the wood pile so I cannot.
Best thing to do is to tell him you'd like to take a shower and see if he offers to stay in and watch the kids. Gives him an "easy" way to be the "hero"--and gets you your shower.
SI 
