he told me to stop praying for him just stop x , stop y, stop z and just RELAX. That he was never going to leave me or the kids that he loved me very much and to focus on that!
You don't know what I would give to hear those words from my W. What a gift, a treasure he's given you. Please count your blessings. After four years of separation, and after being reconciled for a year, my W still can not or will not make that kind of statement. The best I get is "let's take it one day at a time, or I'm working on it, or we'll see how things go, or tomorrow is another day. Those are'nt necessarily bad things, but if she only knew the burden she could lift from me by just saying words like your H said. I've come to a point of courage where I don't need to hear her say it, but what a relief it would bring anyway.
You sound like you're doing really well. Any time those doubts and fears come up, just think back about what he said. Remember, fear, anxiety, anger, selfishness, they come from the dark side. Courage, peace, joy, generosity, humility, come from the good side.
Love,
COG
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