I just moved here from Newcomers. My sitch is married for 14 years, known for 23. Three kids 14s, 11s, and 8d. I am 37 and he is 39. Bomb 7/26/06. Left us for a 26 year that has 3d and 6s. I use to watch her kids in my daycare. They had an emtional affair every since Valentines day of last year. Three weeks after he left. they started living together. H has been back and forth on wanting to get back together, but is afraid he will never hear the end of the A and says he cant live by himself. Or says he cant throw her and 2 kids on the street. H wanted a D, and I jumped the gun and got the papers filed. Three weeks ago, I told him I didnt have the heart to go through with the D and he said to put it on hold then. But hurry up , so we wouldnt have to go to court. I am real close to his mother. She has been more of a mother than my own. She told me this week that he had to clean the house and do all the laundry. They have been fighting at least 2 to 3 times week since this all started. OW doesnt have a job and she makes more on unemployment then she would if she had a job. I know what type of person she is. She has told me that she was looking for someone to take care of her so she wouldnt have to work. She thought we had money. It just makes me sick to think that she is using him and I am having to pay for it. I am just having to detach and sit back and watch him ruin is life.
