I don't mean this as a rhetorical question, but literally: why do you see it as important that she understand the way men/boys bond with peer teasing?
If she understood this in the way that you want her to, how would that change things between you two?
you wrote She thinks men are dumb because they do not make themselves emotionally vulnerable like women do (and by implication like she does???)
How does this thinking of hers affect your relationship? This seems like a pretty unproductive observation on your part (and on hers, too). So straighten me out-- what does it matter?
