I get what you’re saying, and the reason I asked is that my wife does not seem to understand the male teasing thing very well. She thinks men are dumb because they do not make themselves emotionally vulnerable like women do (and by implication like she does???) So I’m wondering why it is she seems to hate this aspect of men.
I also wonder if she had a stronger sense of herself as a woman, then she could be more confident in viewing male behavior objectively. I also think that a strong, confident, but feminine woman can go a long way to balancing an overly male father. I hear what you’re saying about sexual abuse and innuendo, but even there, if it is only comments (not physical abuse) a strong caring mother can help to balance even this in the child.
I look at the work Corri is trying to do. To me, she is working on becoming a real woman. As such I do not see her threatened by typical male behavior, whereas before, she might have found it extremely insensitive and hurtful. So for my wife, I still think there is a lot blame on her mother, not just her father.
