Mrs cac wrote I'm sorry you never felt safe with your father. I remember being at a friend's house and watching her father, and wondering why I couldn't have a father like that.
I totally relate to this. When I was in high school I had two girlfriends who were sisters. They had a very close family and a great relationship with their dad. One time the dad got trench mouth from a dirty drinking glass and one of the girls said, "We won't be able to kiss our dad for six weeks!" (or something) I was fascinated by this, as I NEVER kissed my father ever-- not once in my entire life.
One of the things I love about my bf is the R he has with his daughters (18-year old twins). He is so affectionate, respectful, patient, delighted, appreciative, supportive with them. He doesn't cross any lines and yet he's always available. They are SO lucky to have a dad like him. If he only treated me half as well as he treats them. He never snaps at them or acts impatient. He listens to their endless anecdotes about their college lives, asks questions, laughs at their stories-- he absolutely adores them. They're very lucky.
