LL, when I said it did not sound like he's 100% committed to m, I might have used the wrong words.What is 100 % anyways? He seems to be doing alot of things right but maybe not sure how to get it all...I still am not saying what I am thinking. You say he should not be with buddie so much , for the first 20 years of our m, h did not have outside friends or activities because I thought his place at night and weekends was with me and kids.Then a few years ago when all this ff thing came along, and h joined choir and outside activities, I was threatened and that is when all the doubts came, when we really drifted apart. Just before h moved out and we talked he said he needs to have his own time out, and I now see that it is ok for each of us to have seperate friends to do things with. Your h needs this buddie right now, is it fair? probably not but he does not feel stressed when he is with him. They have to come back 100% on their own terms, again is it fair..nope but we knew going into this that we, the db'trs, would have to give more than the waw probably will.They have not been so lucky as to have the books and board to come to learn how and what might work or not work. Keep looking at the all the good that your h has done the past weeks. Sue
