oh heres another 180 for ya.... before the disclosure of ow "friendship" and before h left home..he was home every night unless it was snowing or he went to the football game. ( season ticket holder)
since his homecomming he has been going out at night, over the past month every sunday he goes down to his friends house to watch football and yes has started to come home after but it is usually late..like midnight.
is he really with his buddie...probably would be really dumb of him not to be..thing is I can't call ow's house to see if she's home cause she's blocked private calls.
would he be that stupid anyway?
is it right of him to be spending this time with his friend...while we are supposedly trying to heal from his having had an affair and leaving me for said affair..NO!!! can I say anything about it...oh sure...would it get a good response...doubt it.. starting to wonder if h is in fact in a bit of a mlc?? or just a really dumb guy when it comes to football and happens to have a married buddie who's wife either doesn't care or is off working so he's loney and latched onto my h. said buddie actually came to our house fri night while I was out...came home at 3 am to find them both sleeping on the couches.
do I really want to deal with it if he is????
perhaps I'll just have one of my own...I already know I'd be pretty good at it.
h helped get a lot done today but still managed to talk to his buddie several times on the nextel two way (at least I get to hear their conversations, there like a couple of kids) left around 1...just called at 7:45 to let me know he watched a game and I don't know something about another game and that he'd be home later...probably not til 11:30 or 12. I just said ok.
but what I really want to say to him is.
do you really think it is appropriate for you to be spending this time that we are supposed to be healing with your buddie. I know you have a right to your time and your friends..but I don't feel very possitive about US while you stay down there all night with him...even if you do come home afterward.
I know the result of that conversation...do I give you a hard time when you go out with your friends? (no why should you, I'm not the one who had an affair and left you and besides you just have your new affair come up here to keep you company while you go out I am up here alone!)
I'd rather you didn't tell me seems like h isn't 100% commited to the r...I'd rather hear something like...so he's watching football with his buddie....that's a good thing...it's good that he now has a male friend...football season is not that long and before you know it summer will be here and you'll be back to having your sundays free again... you did after all have every sunday all day and night free to do what you wanted while h was there with the kids...so give him this time...if you don't complain about it you will be rewarded!!
so I am off to decorate the tree as I figure the game is on tommorow night and h is sure to go back down to friends again to watch it and I don't feel like waiting til tuesday to get it done.
btw I should add that before we were married h not only ran his business but also was a firefighter..so there were plenty of nights that he was at work or tired from work and I went out and lived my life...difference is I wanted him there it was his choice to go to sleep instead. I've been waiting for him to not be tired and it seems that now that he isn't tired as much he wants to hang with this guy instead of me. maybe I'm just a brat I don't know.
