I don't know if this will help or not but one thing that my H has said to be it that I never let him love me "his way". He has told me to let him come back to me his way and on his time.
I know that we have a picture in our head of how we want to be treated/loved but we have to respect and accept that this may not be the same way that our H will treat and love us. They have their own way of showing their love and by your list of your H 180's that looks like exactly what he is doing, loving you. I am happy for you that you have this chance with your H to rebuild your R. Things will not happen over night. I think that with everything that you do it is two steps back and one step forward. When everything is too comfortable in a relationship it is not growing, your R is growing LL.
Tina
M 14 years, tog 20. 3 kids D-13, S-11, S-9. Bomb dropped June 1/02, sep Aug 11, living with OW since Oct/02.
