h's 180's helps more with the kids... helps more with care of house (the inside, he's always done a great job outside) even just this am..I walked into the main floor bathroom adn it stunk of pee (son is three aim is off ya know) so h not 5 min later is in there cleaning the bowl and putting the rugs in the laundry. h helped bring down christmas decorations from the attic and get them situated. h has more conversations (phone) while in the house, he used to sit in his truck. h is affectionate h talks more, telling me bits and peices of his day (not every day) h sounds happy when I call (used to sound like I was bothering him, now even if I am he will kindly say "can I call you back in a few I'm in the middle of xyz") h is more physical (major 180...been complaining about that for years long before ow...before we were even married actually) h is more considerate of me needing time and space of my own...by helping out with the kids...
so this is a man who is trying.... I try to look at the ow as alchohol....it's gonna take a while...but I don't think h is going anywhere....as long as I keep my mouth shut...
