LL, wanting all those"things", flowers, cards etc.. are great in a perfect world or marriage. But how many are like that?? Was your h romantic before, my has never been, and yes I would die for some flowers, a gushy card, but he never did it before, I sure ain't going to get it now. I have come to realize, even before all this started that I can't change him, he always showed his love in ways that I missed some of the time.
I know the stress of being at home with young kids, and that now contributes to our problems, we foccused way too much on family, never any time for ourselves, together and apart.I always feel like I have to take care of everything. My h is doing his own laundry, cooking?, paying his bills..taking garbage out..all the things I have done for 24 years..If he does come back there are going to be some changes. Maybe he has felt helpless and left out by it all being done. He does not sound like he's ready to put the ring back on. Do you wear yours? As i had posted in my thread I never even gave it a thought to remove them, and h wears his. Hang in there, it's tough, but you have shown your strength time and time again. Sue
