i have to be careful about what i want to say because it would not be helpful but i can't help it because i have been soooooo angry at my h too...the arrogance and selfishness is staggering at times. almost unbelievable. but there have been times when i have been so negative and you have lifted my spirits by telling me to focus on what i have and the positives. it has taken h about 4 yrs to get his head on straight. and you are so much stronger and have so much more spirit than i did. i was a perfect doormat. you will definetly be ok no matter what. it is in your hands. if your h is anything like mine, he isn't acting these ways to hurt or anger you. his thinking is self-centered but this could be changing. it takes time and it is up to you wether you will wait or not. i looked at it like i have a baby and can't afford a divorce emotionally or financially and all that entails so i decided to try and act as if and unconditional love. plus i still loved him. but i talked in therapy about making alternate plans should h not be the man i needed him to be. it took me years to get to a place where i felt i had a choice. i thought i would die without him. i really admire your strength and spirit. you have every right to be angry and express it here. i hear we are in for more snow tonight! hopefully not where you are too much and your h won't have to work. sorry if i rambled, not feeling well-- take care,lisa
