M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
I know you guys think it's a bad idea to talk to him, but I want to ask him if he realizes the scope of the damage that he participated in creating. I don't want to threaten him, I already did that the night I caught them, he's such a man that he ran when I tried to get ahold of him. I want to talk to him in a gentlemanly fashion, and basically tell him that he better respect what my GF asked of him, that they not talk or be friends or anything other than co-workers. I was no stranger to brawling when I was a punk-teenager, but I'm proud to say I don't have that same attitude anymore. This whole experience is pushing me back to my default protection modes that I used as a kid. I let go of hatred when I met her, and the pressure of this is pushing those buttons that made me do stupid stuff when I was younger. Should I tell her tomorrow in MC about he and I talking?
NO!, don't talk to him. It will get back to her she will be mad, and it's just not a good idea. They both know they are in the wrong, she sees it as hurting you and is willing to put a stop to it. He sees it as an opportunity, and you will get no where with him.
DO you really think anything you say will make sense to him. He doesn't care about you, he wants her. Anything you say to him will probably make him resent you and want her more. Leave it alone.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
Just don't even bring him up. You are the bigger man and she knows that by the way you want to change. That's part of my problem is bringing up the OM, and I need to stop it. I feel like it's helping but it really isn't making it better. She needs some time and you need patience. so give those two things a try and see what kind of place your in then.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
Is it normal to have days when anger and resentment replace those feelings of hope and love? Right now I'd rather scold her for what she's done and tell her to take a flying f**king leap. That a**hole just called me a third time to tell me that VW is ready to be picked up, and he asked to talk to me specifically. He could've told one of the other guys here. I feel like he's dangling it in front of my face. About a week ago I stopped at her work on my way home to see if there was anything she wanted from the supermarket. I walked right by him in the parking lot, he obviously couldn't look me in the face. She was very nervous when I went inside, and she whispered to me "he's still here." I told her I was fine, and that I wasn't there to make trouble. In reality, I think I was there to mark my territory a little. We've talked about MC being the "safe place" where we can talk about anything with MC being the unbiased mediator. I want to tell her that he and I spoke, and that he was acting like he had one over on me. She seems to think he's perfect.
Well of course, but do you really think that it matters what you tell her. You will talk to her with your own ideas in mind. You don't even know what he is thinking. If you keep trying to find conflict it will make you look bad. Don't go over there, and don't take his phone calls. He is baiting you, so he can look better when something does arise. How is this making you more attractive, and why would she chose to be with you.
M-31 W-25 S-1 1/2 bomb dropped 9-01-06,and repeating over and over "I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
