Lil, I see my father's behavior as abusive, because I believe he abused his power -- as an adult over a child, as a father over a daughter. It was bullying behavior from a man with a history of bullying his younger brothers, and who was bullied himself as a kid.
My father had only brothers (3) and a very sexually repressed mother who admitted toward the end of her life that her husband had never seen her naked. My father used to joke that his mother only "did it" 4 times.
