J, I feel like you've been handed a " get out of jail card" and we're your probation officers here.
LOL- I feel more like you guys are still in the safe orphanage that LP envisaged and I escaped from the orphanage but haven't been adopted so I am living like a street urchin. I am hoping you guys will sneak me out some leftover rolls from the cafeteria.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
You're more the artsy-fartsy type so you might rather be tied up nekkid in an elvish woodlands setting, using vines for rope, stretched out in the grass between a few sapling as the sunlight bounces off your... ok, better quite while I'm ahead... time to go to lunch.
Okay, (Lou) you can play Dad and I'll bring the boys home to meet you first.-LOL
Gees, I was hoping you would sign up for being Mrs. Lou #II when I said I think I have room for a semi-retired W #2. You could work part-time. Now isn't that a good offer?
If you don't want that offer, how about I be some uncle you trust, a little tooo conservative for you but someone with good intentions.
I'm puzzled by Mr. Mojo the way some other spouses here puzzle me. I am frequently puzzled by Mrs. Hairdog. Others are more transparent assuming that the descriptions here are fairly accurate. Many have been puzzled by my H too. Nothing earth shattering, just - "Huh, that Is odd."
MJ,
Kids being older is an advantage in exploring the dating world but like you mentioned - there are tons of logistics to sort through. I also had a lot of guilt about being "still married" and contemplating dating. That was compounded by my newly sober ex-H getting religion suddenly and telling me that any R after our marriage would be considered by God as being adulterous even if we were divorced etc.... I often refer to the whole separation/divorce time period as having a very surreal quality to it. I don't remember when I first started to feel normal again but it was a while.
Just sort through things one at a time. And now, more than ever, stay out of his #hit! His depressive nature means that there will be times that he will really struggle, may lash out and you may find yourself feeling surprisingly sympathetic. It is ok. You have a history together. The good part is when you have enough distance to remember the good things, let the rest go and be totally neutral on the ex's current sitch.
how about I be some uncle you trust, a little tooo conservative for you but someone with good intentions.
Oooo, role playing! Can I be the lost FedEx driver innocently asking for directions, caught unawares in your net of manic sexual energy? Or how about the delivery guy who has a load of books for you, drops the box, and a book full of erotic photographs lands open, at your feet?
Hairdog, who is way too creative for his own good.
You're more the artsy-fartsy type so you might rather be tied up nekkid in an elvish woodlands setting, using vines for rope, stretched out in the grass between a few sapling as the sunlight bounces off your... ok, better quite while I'm ahead... time to go to lunch.
Hmmm...I kind of like it but it's more bunny rising towards lioness or maybe lioness falling to bunny (depends on who tied me up)not straightforward monkey for me. I'll put it in my file under "Potential Variations on Core Hiking Fantasy".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
