Well it's very interesting. I went home last night with the knowledge of what I need to do and it was suprisingly easy. Just being concious of my lack of patience and rudeness to the kid's is enough to motivate change. There were a few occasions when I could have raised my voice, and I actually did it once, but caught myself quickly and shut it down. I tried using a low voice, and was more assertive with them. It worked just fine. At one point my D9 interrupted our convo, which under normal circumstances I would have jumped her for, but I just grinned and let her talk. Funny thing is that W jumped her for interrupting, heh heh, better her than me. Anyway, it's a work in progress, a change that I know I need to make.
As for W, she's a rock. I did play a little game with her last night though. I got into bed and snuggled over next to her. I only laid there a minute or so and then said "OK that's it, I don't want you getting too excited" and I moved back to my side of the bed. She had a nice little chuckle, and I had a smile too because I'm playin to WIN!
God Bless,
COG
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