I'm sorry you're here, but glad you feel you belong.
I can speak only from my own experience as an HD male, but I don't think there's anything "over-the-top" or unrealistic about your husband's sexual needs. And an HD male will, after repeated rejection, be deeply hurt and may in fact give up (I did).
However, that does NOT justify him going outside of the marriage to have his needs met, and CERTAINLY doesn't justify him continually leaving and coming back to his family as he pleases!
