Brief background 1st bomb Oct/06 - h EA/PA H tell me he was having PA with coworker, swears its over and wants to stay married, start counselling, everything seems ok. H slowly goes into depression, goes on AD for help. 2nd Bomb Jan/07 H leaves note saying he has been with ow and is going to kill himself, police are involved to find him, have to tell his family whats going on. He returns home and again say wants it to work, however things are bad and we don't really talk. 3rd bomb Feb/07 H calls me and tells me he is leaving me, not happy and doesn't want marriage. I tell h he has to do whats best for him, I don't beg, plead, just say I hope one day we can think about reconcilliation. He says he is going to stay with parents, then calls and say parents wount let him stay and can he come home and sleep on couch, says only to sleep not to save marriage. I say no. He calls next day and says he wants to talk, so can we met, wants to talk about relationship. We meet and he says he is an idiot and wants to come home and does.
So I figured he would be gone before V-day, however he bought me flowers and took me out for dinner! At dinner we really talked, he started. He told me he had been trying to make me tell him to leave, as he thought thats what he deserved, and if it wasn't for me he wouldn't have been able to come through this, he really wants the marriage to work, and loves me! He says that its over with ow, wants to change our phone #, email, so that it makes it harder for her to reach him, he also changed cell #. So that where we are today, things seem to be ok, and we are moving forward. I still have bad moments, yesterday was bad, really thought he was back with her, he has reasured me he isn't going anywhere and is not with her, and loves me. So I thought now is as good of a time to come over here!
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!
