That's a tough one. I think you need to figure out a way to get the dirt to your H without it actually coming from/through you... hmmm...I know that anything that I have said about OW's lies are just discredited as coming from someone who doesn't know anything or I am informed that I don't know what reality is or what she is really all about.. So, you have to be really careful about how the information is passed on to H. Is it really new information?? Didn't he just kind of blow off the fact that she was with someone else while you were "reconciling"?
I know what you mean about stepping out of the drama. I guess that's the key - don't let yourself get sucked in.. just let her hang herself. They always show their true colors in the end!
