Well, back from my first IC in about a month (requested by my C). She said WAW is now at a point where she's not sure she want's to wake up in 5 years and wonder if she should have tried to make it work. Could account for the note, B-day card, and V-day card all received in the last week+.

C wanted to know, on my WAW's behalf, I suppose, whether I would be willing to do three or four JC sessions and then maybe a dinner with WAW with the proviso that WAW won't guarantee anything and isn't sure she can do all of that.

My answer, "Not yet...not now". It's movement in the right direction, but just too soon for either of us. According to C, WAW says she's been living a lie for most of her life and now that she's "finding herself", wonders if I'll like the person she is now. Hard to say, considering I'm not sure I know who that is, but on it's face, I don't much care for what I've seen so far.

The reality is that a half-dozen+ counseling sessions will not resolve the issues of a person whose life has largely been a fraud...by her own admission. So there is absolutely nothing upon which to base any evaluations that would need to take place in the context of JC, dinner, or anything else.

So I'm back in a holding pattern for what, I expect, will be a couple months. For those of you hoping for more progress so this thread wouldn't be such a bore, sorry. For those of you checking in and hoping for a quick resolution to your own sitch, take a lesson...it's a long, slow, winding road.

alamogirl:
You're doin' OK. \:\) Thanks for the update. I still think you should start your own thread. There's so little going on in my sitch that my thread doesn't get much action. I think you'd get more response with your own thread in Divorced But Not Done. Either way, I thinking about you and hoping for the best. Keep in touch.