LG, Hope you are well. Loved the lyrics, posted them on my blog today - they are great. Keep us posted, friend. Rooting for you!
Thanks for the well wishes!
Last night, at the MC, I decided to try a different approach, and rather than interrogate W about the OM, I spoke about the realizations I have come to see, about how I contributed to conditions leading to her decisions. I tried to stay positive in talking about my job possibilities, and I could tell my W was appreciative of this approach.
I said that even though I would prefer she stay with me in our home as long as she was able, I do believe that I would be more successful in breaking the negative habits of interation, and making important changes in my life if I was living on my own for a time. So we talked a little about maybe beginning to draft a controlled separation agreement. She was not sounding completely comfortable with a contractual agreement that she would sign, but she said she would consider working on a draft with me.
She returned home with me for the first time in 3 days, and we enjoyed a meal of French tarragon chicken I had prepared earlier in a crock pot, along with some good white wine. We were able to talk a little bit about our R, without getting uncomfortable.
When we went to bed, I said good night to her with my head on her pillow, and was surprised when she slipped into sleep quickly with our arms around each other. I tried my best to stay awake for about 5 more minutes, so I could enjoy the joy of the physical contact, but then I too slipped into sleep.
When we awoke, it was business as usual. A little awkwardness and an early morning drive to the train station. I told her she was welcome to stay at home again tonight, but she had decided to return to her brother's house.
Oh well...such is the condition of the diehard romantic.
Me 46 WAW 45 M 21 yrs
WAW: "I need to be alone" 12/06 W moves out 3/07 Mediation finalized 08/08
