URGENT! OW had an abortion, H miserable

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Doe and imLIN, thank you for the advice.
I am of course, still very undecided as to what to do. H is trying to keep me happy. It's funny to see whenever he goes out with her (dinner usually), he plans an outing for us. Such a busy man. Yes, I think he is at least dragging his feet if not cake eating. I was telling him that the kid actually asked where he was at dinnertime and my kid usually does not ask. I then couldn't help but said, "they'll get used to it soon". Then he slipped out and said, "I hope not. (sigh) It's ending soon." Don't know if that's a lie or not.
At this point, I am still trying to give me some more time. However, Doe, your first post hit it on the nail with almost every sentence. I am dying a slow death. With this going on, I am not sure if there will be anything left by the time he finishes with her (if he does). Everyday I am detaching a little more, and sometimes I am thinking more of "I DON'T need him" than "We'll stay together". It is terrifying. My GF (who finally dumped the husband after years of HIS depression) said my heart will tell me. Right now I know it's not time yet. But I can see it coming.
Doe, you really put my situation/feelings in words. Thanks.
H read the mlc books I gave him and concluded that he is not in mlc. I am not so sure as I can see the mlc trigger (friend same age died of cancer suddenly). I do visit midlifeclub for that. I think I will pop in fortysixty to take a look.
I have a hard time deciding how to fact him when he comes home after his "outings". Do I act as if nothing happen? Or do I act happy ("act as if" he's back from business dinner). I cannot detach all the time so I do feel upset though I am getting better in hiding it. That's the tough part in staying together.