I'm also in SA...nice to meet a fellow San Antonian. Just wondering, did you keep the w/d? I'm living in the house, so I have everything. The only thing H needs to pick up are bits and pieces of furniture. My therapist said to have several friends over and move all his stuff to the garage. That way, when he does finally pick it up, it's all together, and I don't have to worry about seeing him.
Hey OldFool,
Update: I went to see the lawyer yesterday, and we went over all the items that my H's lawyer requested of me. It's not as bad as it looks. Fortunately, I'm pretty anal about keeping records and stuff. My lawyer was surprised that I had all that stuff and wished all his clients were "anal" like me...ha! He didn't say that, just the part that he wished his clients had their records at least as far back as 3 years.
Do you know that my H is playing the "poor little me" card? He's asking for spousal support! My lawyer actually thinks it's going to backfire and can't imagine why his lawyer is allowing it. I can't believe my H agreed to it. Also, my H used up all his 401K to live on when he moved out. My lawyer said that it is going to count against him. Who pulls out their 401K to live on and then goes after half of his spouse's 401K? IT'S NUTS!
My lawyer also requested that my H fill out this questionnaire. One of the questions is "Did you ever engage in an extra-marital affair while married to your spouse"? He said that if my H answers "yes," he may be able to lower my H's portion of my retirement & 401K. Unfortunately, TX is a no-fault community property state; however, it doesn't necessarily mean that the spouse gets 1/2 of everything...it may be less. In my case, let's hope so.
That's it for now. All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07
