Hey NJ, Finally stopping by to say hi. I'm perusing around here and I may even start a thread here. Thanks for all your support. It has been so helpful to me.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
It's interesting where we view ourselves in our sitch. I've been on the MLC boards for a long time, but started i infidelity. Then I realized that what was going on wtih my H was more than simple infidelity... ther there was some serious internal soul searching and life realizatoins happening with him. Now we've identified these sex issues, I am finding myself here. I think that many of our issues overlap in nature. The thing about the MLC board is that it gives the perspective into the depression that is going on with the WAS.
Either way, I do so love hearhing from you... so keep the advice coming!!!
Last edited by peaceful_spirit; 03/01/0703:51 PM.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
Lil, I do read the threads at MLC since there is overlap in my situation between SSM and MLC. But, as you've said before, participating in one forum is enough if you want any kind of outside life!
I pretty much limit my posts now to a few sentences...I just cannot keep up. I so very much appreciate your careful analyses and information giving.
PS, I plan on following along on your ride; my advice may be good one day, bad the next, but just know my heart's in the right place!
MLC is less about age and more about stage in life and burried issues taking a destructive hold of ones life. MLC is another way of describing this particular type of depression, which in many cases is simply running hard and fast from impending depression. That's when the destructive behavior like affairs usually happen.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
I have been acting more in " avoidant" mode to give my H the chance to be the pursuer. Initially, this was successful for us; my H had increased desire, and I felt good about adding some spice for him. But the more I avoid the sex, the more I set up a conflict within myself, because I really don't want to be avoiding. I am just not in the right head space to play with him in this way. But at least I tried.
