New to Piecing II

[COG]

I hear you Frank and JustMe. I'm fired up alright. Just reading Making Her Happy, and read the part about Kid's Can Be The Deal Breaker. Basically says that if you have fun and love the kid's you have fun and love your W. But if you're abusive to the kid's then it can be WORSE for the attraction than being abusive to your W. Now I've not raised my voice towards my W in a VERY long time. But it's a regular thing with the kid's, I mean an every day thing and several times a day at that. I have fun with them, I'm gentle with them, I'm connected and interested in their lives, but when they mess up, I'm on them like a lion. They don't usually take it personally, sometimes even laugh at me when I'm fuming. It just seems they don't respond to me unless I'm yelling at them. W yells too sometimes, but I can tell that MY yelling is NOT attractive to her at all. It's like farting in bed or something.

It's a 180 just waiting to happen. I think I've been in denial about it long enough. It's time for COG to step up and create a better way, tonight, right now! No more yelling and screaming at the kid's. I'm gonna try some new approaches and see what works best. I can visualize myself sitting at the table, sleeves rolled up, gently and peacefully helping with homework, and W watching from the kitchen with warmth in her heart for the man who loves her kids. Or my smiling and endulging them as they join our conversations.......well I'm not sure about that one. It'll take awhile to get there, one baby step at a time, but get there I will!!! Not perfect mind you, just good enough to be outstanding.

How did I end up with so much baggage and how long will it take to grow up???

God Bless,

COG