Mopsey, They can have "fits" of anger over trival things, just as you've seen w/your h. The only way to diffuse the anger is to change subjects in mid-stream. If you can do that, he will have to focus on something else and lose the anger for a bit. I saw anger in my xh for about 5 years and it's still there peiodically if he doesn't get his way when he asks for things from the home. You have to learn to change the subject very quickly and do not take the bait he's throwing at you. If you don't argue w/him, who can he argue w? The ow, someone else or more importantly w/himself.
He's angry w/your d because she's not there at his beck and call. Too bad. He's going to have to realize that she's got a life and her world doesn't revolve around him dropping a quarter on a call. That's why he's angry, nothing more. Let this man stew in his pot for a while. The less contact you have w/him when he's like this, the better.
Mopsey, turn it over to God and allow him to deal w/it. Trust me, he's working on him every hour of the day, you just can't see it.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
