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Just joking! I was checking out the 5 Love Languages, should I ask her to take the quiz with me? I don't want to pressure her, but I want to know what to do to provide for her EN.

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I did with my H \:\)


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I just don't know if she's ready for me to try and "fix" anything right now, but I don't want to fail to meet her EN anymore either.

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well you know her better than I do. Have or do you talk on the phone?


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We still live together, so essentially it would not be difficult to approach the subject, I just don't want to push her in the other direction.

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I was on the phone one day with my H - we weren't getting along too good @ the time, but I asked him the five questions and told him I was trying to figure out our love languages. I don't see it as a bad thing.


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We made an agreement with the help of our MC that we would plan ahead for our discussing the relationship. I like to talk about things as soon as they enter my mind, she likes time to prepare herself, so maybe I'll ask her tonight if we can discuss the 5 Love Languages later on in the week. We see the MC together friday night, maybe I'll bring it up then...

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there you go - honor the agreement


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Ok, so we went to dinner last night and I asked her if she would take the Love Language quiz w/ me after our MC appointment on friday. She agreed to, although she seemed a little weird about it. The other day we bumped into a co-worker of hers at the coffee shop. I was a little pissed because she didn't introduce me, but I didn't say anything about it, which is a good positive step for me! He then asked her later at work if that was her boyfriend that he saw her with, referring to me. She responded "yes", and told her how he sees me in there all the time. This morning we car-pooled together, ran into the same co-worker at the coffee shop, and she introduced me simply as Jeff. Not "this is my boyfriend, Jeff", just "Jeff". Of course, I know she already recognized me as her boyfriend when he asked her at work (which made me feel great last night when she was telling me the story!). I know, I'm making a big deal out of nothing, but my self esteem is really that low since this whole thing started. UA, please tell me I'm being ridiculous...

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You are on the same ride we all are on. Any little positive brings you back up, but one little negative will push you further down the hill. It's normal, and we all feel the same way. You want things done and done now, I am the same way. I have been waiting for my W to end the A, and she still calls him. Baby steps my friend.


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"I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be." Groucho Marx.
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