It is frustrating but you have to stay strong. One thing my H did tell me is that if I had pushed him against the wall and made him chose in the beginning he probably would have chosen the OW. Not what I wanted to hear but he is not thinking with all his brains these days. You want the opportunity to rebuild the marriage some day so hang in there for now. Life with the OW isnt as rosey as you might think it is for him.
Be strong... Go shopping, call a friend or go to a movie (just not a sappy love story)
One other piece of advice, dont share your troubles with your family . When you get back with H they wont forget. I had one very good girlfriend who I knew wouldnt pass judgement on either myself or my H so I confided in her but only her and it wasnt easy keeping it to myself.
