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Validate her? I've told her how our friends feel about her, it seems like she just can't see past this fantasy world OM has created in her head.

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Validate her? I've told her how our friends feel about her, it seems like she just can't see past this fantasy world OM has created in her head.


who cares how your friends feel about her - how do you feel about her? I can't imagine she cheated because your friends were just your friends...


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I've told her how I feel, although I don't want to put alot of pressure on her right now with confessing my undying love. I always TOLD her I loved her, but until this happened I didn't realize I wasn't SHOWING her I loved her.

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yeah we need to see it through your actions...


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One other interesting thing she said to me when I asked her why she did this was "I didn't think you loved me as much as you used to." This was said during the first few hours after catching her, so we were both pretty emotional. I did neglect her. I see that now. And what hurts the most is how much she cared about me. She would always bring things home for me, shop for me, THINK of me. I wish i could turn back the clock. I don't want to lose her.

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well you can't turn back the clock but you CAN fix this.

What's her love language?


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I haven't read that book yet. I want to devote my life to her, which I didn't do before. I remember times when we'd be walking with our friends and I wouldn't even notice that I had left her behind all of us. All the time I would put things in front of her. I took her for granted. I want another chance so bad...

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well go online, do a search of love languages -- there's a quick quiz you can take -- figure out hers from there or ask her to answer five quick questions and then work on showing her using her love language.


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Thanks UA...you sound like you're becoming frustrated with me!

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no I'm not - I'm tired and cranky. Sorry if I am coming across that way


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