He cannot get over the OW help us...

[Heartbroken]

Question: H wants to do stuff at the house (he cannot sit still) on Sat. when I am at work and I feel that he needs to back off - he cannot have the separation he so "needs" or wants and have the family/home package we have together. He needs to see what it is like with the kids in a diff environment (his apt) as in how it will be with a D. Am I off basis? I said it's not like I can just show up to his apt and start decorating... Help me here am I off base? Am I pushing him away????

H asks if he's having the kids Sat. night too and I said we'll let them decide. I want H to have his alone time (or Ow time to see the true her without the fantasy life surrounding them). I will probably have them with me and then suggest we do a family movie on Sunday? Is this okay - I feel it's genuine no motives on my part. I hate all my second guessing though...

Patience Patience Patience - I know that is what I need!

What about H not having his home projects for awhile - any thoughts???