Hmmm… interesting post…. Good to hear from you and glad to hear things are going well for you. It doesn’t sound to me like things are going so well for your spouse. Is she growing more and more resentful over having to move to China and leave her creature comforts and family so you can find yourself? I used to live overseas when I was a kid and know that it is usually one spouse or the other (usually the wife) that has to table their career to make such a move. If she is a SAHM mom, then it can work out fine. If not, she can become more and more anxious to get back to a career that may be leaving her behind.
Add to that your hesitancy to move back to her hometown and she might feel that she is making all the sacrifices just for you. Could she be thinking that you are keeping her away from her family so you do not have to confront your mother? It sounds like your C has done a great job of boosting your esteem, but has s/he considered your wife? Even the "not want to want" types can grow resentful. They just take a little longer.
