It's Over

[MJontheMend]

[/quote]Anywhoo - just memorize the mantra - "My life is mine and his is his." Live your "best" life, whatever that means to you. The single error I think I made post divorce was in not dating. I was too concerned with being a good Mom, didn't want a string of people through my children's lives, and didn't want to be seen as a desperate divorcee. I also didn't want to spend hours on the phone and computer neglecting my children in favor of pursuing a bunch of men. So....I was asked out by a lot of people, turned them down and then met H. If I had it to do over again I still wouldn't introduce my children to people I was dating until they meant something to me but I would date more people and get to know them. I would RELAX more about it. Go out with someone who "isn't your type" once and see then don't accept a second date if they aren't your cup of tea. KWIM? I think dating is a far cry from "jumping into a R too soon". Dating lets you get to know others and yourself. It would be good for your self esteem!

I can definitely understand your viewpoint on dating when you had young children. I really don't think it's going to be a huge issue for me given that my children are dating also.-LOL. However, like TTHO suggested, I do not have any intention of getting myself into any sort of serious relationship any time soon. I really need to take some time to evaluate what I want from the rest of my life. I'm really feeling at loose ends because my ToDo lists which I depend on so much are suddenly completely in need of revision. Also, I have quite a bit of work to do to get my financial house in order. I'm keeping the house but I'm going to have to turn the back quarter back into an apartment in order to afford it while simultaneously increasing my business income by about a quarter by working more etc. etc. Plus I have to do all the filing cr*p and organize all the separation of joint accounts etc. etc. So I don't really think I'll be ready to think about dating for a little while yet. Okay, I lie I'm clearly already "thinking" about it but I probably won't actually be "doing" anything about it for awhile.