congrats! I'm very happy you guys are together again.
Well, Cat, we aren't truly "together" again. She hasn't made any commitment yet, and she hasn't moved in with me, which is why I haven't moved to piecing.
Her concern is that she still doesn't feel "in love" with me. Though we are very loving toward each other, she still doesn't feel that driving passion for me that she feels is essential to her happiness. As a result, she's afraid that this cycle could repeat itself. She's truly afraid of hurting me (and her whole family) again.
Right now, we aren't even "working" on our relationship, because she's been so preoccupied with OM and what was happening to him. I do think that we're at the beginning of the end of that. Yesterday morning, she told me that she didn't feel the usual emotional heaviness and hurt that she normally has had since their breakup.
As for me, before I recommit to the marriage, I want an agreement on W's taking her medicine. Specifically, I want her to take what her psychiatrist has prescribed unless I agree that she can take less medicine.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)