I don't get your H and I'm not really gonna try. I find his behavior throughout odd and questionable. However, since you are my cyber-friend and he is not I am mostly concerned for your well being.
I told you before not to be surprised by anything. Your H could have been having an affair for years, he could be gay, he could end up with some sexpot gf and a hot SL, he could wind up hermit living under a bridge. Most likely he will drift through life mildly unhappy, occasionally depressed and wonder "why me?" (my ex-h did and is still doing the latter - after more than six years apart).
Anywhoo - just memorize the mantra - "My life is mine and his is his." Live your "best" life, whatever that means to you. The single error I think I made post divorce was in not dating. I was too concerned with being a good Mom, didn't want a string of people through my children's lives, and didn't want to be seen as a desperate divorcee. I also didn't want to spend hours on the phone and computer neglecting my children in favor of pursuing a bunch of men. So....I was asked out by a lot of people, turned them down and then met H. If I had it to do over again I still wouldn't introduce my children to people I was dating until they meant something to me but I would date more people and get to know them. I would RELAX more about it. Go out with someone who "isn't your type" once and see then don't accept a second date if they aren't your cup of tea. KWIM? I think dating is a far cry from "jumping into a R too soon". Dating lets you get to know others and yourself. It would be good for your self esteem!
