Using their intuition to process this information, they are usually extremely quick and accurate in their ability to size up a situation.
I actually scored 100% on the Intuition category and just moderately high on the E,T &P. The above makes sense to me because it describes how I make my living. I intuit the value of books in a very quick manner. I have to do this because my competition is right there by my side trying to do the same thing. So, for instance, I'll walk into a university library sale and see that they have a large table of mathematics titles. I quickly scan the titles and when I start seeing things like a 1950 translation from the Russian on the topic of Homologous Groups, I know that I've hit gold and I start loading my boxes real fast. I used the same skill when I worked in HR. I once amazed my boss because after an interview I said "We can't hire her because she is a cocaine addict.". He did a background check and found out that I was right.
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They get excited and enthusiastic about their ideas, and are able to spread their enthusiasm to others. In this way, they get the support that they need to fulfill their visions.
Don't you guys think it will be SUPERFUN! to help me in my quest to have a fantastic sex life?
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the implementation of an idea is usually a chore to the ENTP. For some ENTPs, this results in the habit of never finishing what they start.
BTDT. Much more fun to plan the garden than to pull weeds. This tendency in myself is what I fight against with my multi-layered ToDo lists.
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ENTPs are fluent conversationalists, mentally quick, and enjoy verbal sparring with others. They love to debate issues, and may even switch sides sometimes just for the love of the debate. When they express their underlying principles, however, they may feel awkward and speak abruptly and intensely.
This should be abundantly apparent to everyone on this BB.
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ENTPs are usually verbally as well as cerebrally quick, and generally love to argue--both for its own sake, and to show off their often-impressive skills. They tend to have a perverse sense of humor as well, and enjoy playing devil's advocate. They sometimes confuse, even inadvertently hurt, those who don't understand or accept the concept of argument as a sport.
Big problem in my marriage. My H absolutely does not understand or accept the concept of argument as a sport. My baby sister who is a lawyer is almost certainly also an ENTP but more E than me. My H described the way the two of us interact/converse when we get together as "self-indulgent" and it annoyed him to no end. I do a lot of verbal sparring with my S18 also. He is cranky like his father but unlike his father he enjoys debate so we have a sort of loving/bickering relationship.
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ENTPs have little patience with those they consider wrongheaded or unintelligent, and show little restraint in demonstrating this.
Hey, it's not my fault that you are wrongheaded, so why are you angry that I called you wrongheaded?
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In terms of their relationships with others, ENTPs are capable of bonding very closely and, initially, suddenly, with their loved ones. Some appear to be deceptively offhand with their nearest and dearest; others are so demonstrative that they succeed in shocking co-workers who've only seen their professional side. ENTPs are also good at acquiring friends who are as clever and entertaining as they are. Aside from those two areas, ENTPs tend to be oblivious of the rest of humanity, except as an audience -- good, bad, or potential.
All pretty much true.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Well, so far my divorce is going much better than my marriage. My H signed a lease on an apartment last night and he is moving out this weekend. We have been thoroughly amicable and even in mutually good spirits, joking about splitting the bill for take-out last night and whether my H was obligated to take the trash to the curb one last time.
I visited with my sister after her surgery and she told me that she and her BF were breaking up also. We cracked each other up with recollections from 20 years ago when we were both single and living together and "on the prowl". Her favorite recollection was the time when we got picked up by two frat boy types at a bar and they took us out to a diner afterwards. Two older men were in a nearby booth. One of them sketched a picture of the two of us on a napkin with a funny note that indicated that we should dump the boys we were with and join them instead. She is a Type 4 so her plan for "Our summer of fun that we deserve after having cancer and putting up with my H for 19 years" is that our style should be "super-fem" and we will make the most of the Detroit music scene in order to have fun (My sister has been a working musician. She was the keyboardist for a semi-semi-famous alternative dark metal band when she lived in the Bay area. My baby sister was a filmmaker before she became a lawyer. One of her documentaries won Audience Favorite at a big filmfest. I wish I could link you guys to their stuff on the internet but that would give away my identity.).
So here is my plan to get laid as I have thought it through so far.
Plan A: Hang out with my sister and meet men at social venues in the manner/style that she suggested. I figure this might get me a leather wearing younger guy with tatoos.
Plan B: I belong to a women's book group. Pretty much all the other members are wealthy conservative longtime married women in their late 50s. I shall tell them that I am divorcing and make it clear that I wouldn't mind being set up. I figure this might get me a Dick Cheney type with whom I can freely f*ck for a while without danger of emotional commitment.
Plan C: I live within 50 miles of one of the major brainiac centers of the world. I can just join Match.com or some other similar site and set my range for 50 miles and see who pops up as being a brainiac who likes brainiacs. I figure this will get me some interesting conversation over dinner at least.
Plan D: Let my married sister in Chicago set me up with somebody. She and her H are both super-social people. This is my least appealing option because the time I let this sister set me up with her boyfriend's best friend I had pretty much the worst sex of my life. Our taste in men is not very similar.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
'ENTPs have little patience with those they consider wrongheaded or unintelligent, and show little restraint in demonstrating this.' there are more then one kind of intelligence, viva la differance.
mojo --Hey, it's not my fault that you are wrongheaded, so why are you angry that I called you wrongheaded?
sorta like my t-shirt. Im on a tshirt kick right now. 'Ill try to be nice if you try to not be stupid.' First numbers, now capital letters. so confusing.
I actually prefer
"Be kind for everyone is fighting a hard battle."
Now, if I could just remember it. [sigh]
some like minded quotes.
Whatever kind of word thou speakest, the like shalt thou bear. ~Greek Proverb
proof that Im a crappy leader.
Leaders don't inflict pain. They bear pain. ~Max DePree.
Attachment to being right creates suffering. When you have a choice to be right, or to be kind, choose kind, and watch your suffering disappear. ~ Wayne Dyer
undoubtedly a favorite of Mrs. HD, but balanced by
I'm not concerned with your liking or disliking me . . . All I ask is that you respect me as a human being. ~Jackie Robinson (1919-1972) Baseball player, activist.
Hindi::: Aisee Vani Boliye, Mun Ka Aapa Khoye Apna Tan Sheetal Kare, Auran Ko Sukh Hoye
TRANSLATION:: Speak such words, sans ego's ploy Body remains composed, giving the listener joy ~Saint Kabīr (1440—1518)
sounds nice in both languages
“I shall not pass this way again. Any good thing that I can do, Or any kindness that I can show, Let me do it now! Let me not defer it Or neglect it. For I shall not pass this way again.” Stephen Grellet
The best that we can do is to be kindly and helpful toward our friends and fellow passengers who are clinging to the same speck of dirt while we are drifting side by side to our common doom. ~ Clarence Darrow
"Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value." Albert Einstein
I guess this post surprised me a little. Your husband went from someone who couldn't get out of bed as he was so depressed. He was considering to quit his job as it was to much. And all of a sudden he is apartment shopping and moving out. Like he has all this ambition all of a sudden when it comes to getting out of things. I don't know about you but to me that would hurt me I think if my husband were to have this complete reversal of behavior. Because I would be thinking maybe if he could have stirred up some of that ambition towards the marriage we could have tried harder.
Also one thing I want to say also is I can tell from your posts that one thing you have held onto is the fact that your husband wanted you to dress sexier or lose weight. I can tell it hurts you because of the number of times you have mentioned it. Along with other issues also you have mentioned. So my advice would be to take some time for yourself to heal. Don't jump into another relationship to quick. Because lots of times when you haven't had time to heal or work through issues that hurt you, then you tend to bring them into another relationship.
Sorry, but I think this particular Yoda-ism is only helpful in certain circumstances. For example, if your student is whining about being unable to accomplish a certain task (e.g., raising a submerged X-wing from a Dagobian swamp) and then, reluctantly, says that he'll "try" to do it, yes, it is appropriate to say this to him.
If, however, your spouse doesn't see things the same way you do, and, after much lecturing by you, agrees to "try to do things your way" in order to quell your incessant criticism and for the betterment of the relationship, this is not the time to say, "I don't want you to 'try'. I want you to 'do'." Because, hey, be happy with the fact that your spouse, contrary to his own understanding of the difference between a clean house in his eyes, and a clean house in your eyes, has compromised with you. Don't rub salt in it.
Gee Heather, I didn't realize you went to high school with me I think it was a fairly common expression in the late 70's, early 80's. Might have been from Animal house.
I think it was a fairly common expression in the late 70's, early 80's. Might have been from Animal house.