Ok, I'm trying not to panic, but she's working with OM tonight. They'll be closing the store together, although their manager will also be there. Does her withdrawal from him start all over again when she sees him? I've read articles about infidelity on Marriage Builders, and that's what I gather from the info presented. I want to ask her to find a new job if she TRULY wants to see if we can make it, but I'm not in a position right now to put pressure on her to do anything. Ideas?
I know it's more my issue at this point, she's broken all ties with him, except obviously when work calls for them to interact. It's just hard to ignore that voice in your head that tells you to protect yourself. As far as I know, she hasn't relapsed and talked to him. I've asked her if she's talked with him or seen him since their last phone conversation, she says "no". She told me she couldn't put me and everyone else through that again, which gave me a little confidence in her. Before this she was an extremely honest person, I truly believe she just got wrapped up in the confusion of the way OM made her feel. I have to keep my eye on the prize...I WILL marry this girl.
what she's saying - reminds me a lot of me. I've told H I will never do it again - there is no way I want any of us to go through this again. I agree with the confusion as well.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
In your sitch UA, when you told your H you would never do it again, that you didn't want to put (us) through it again, did you stick to that? I know I can't compare you and my W(?), but I really want to believe her so I can stop smothering her.
I do mean it. I am sticking to it. However it's just been since September so his trust for me is still really almost non-existent. He's making huge strides in us getting "back to normal" but he's still very hurt, understandably so.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
My GF is still saying that she's not sure if she wants to reconcile. She came back from staying with her parent's saying that she had "clarity" and was committed to making us work, only to tell me 10 days later that she still wasn't sure. Can you give me any input into what she's thinking?
Not really. For me, I realized that I wanted us to work. My H was pushing for a D, and I didn't want it.
However, I know it took me a good 2 months to realize what a POS the om truly was.....those 2 months might've cost us our M. That hurt him more or almost as much as the actual act.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
