Need to vent a bit. A couple of messages today via text re:W seeing D, went as follows
Me:Hi. D's welfare is my no.1 priority, obviously. Nightmares continue but have improved from Thursday. Her fear is that I'm leaving too and that's what the nightmares are about. They were worst last Thursday and Sunday after she saw you. Could be a coincidence but I don't believe so. I'll let you know if things improve.
W:Hi. I know you're a brilliant parent and you are only thinking of D. I am too. Just thought that if she saw me it would make her feel less abandoned in the medium/long term, even though it's hard at the moment to get her head around it. It's your call I just can't see how not seeing me helps reassure her I've not left her life altogether. Tell D I love her and can't wait til see her. Hope you are ok'
I am annoyed for a variety of reasons but would welcome some feedback if there's anyone out there. 1) I see D every day and night and am in a much better position to decide what's best for her 2) I feel like W's trying to make me feel guilty because I'm not letting her have her way 3) I think she's thinking of herself, not D.If she was thinking of D she would take my word for it more and wait until D was more settled. The evidence is that she's worse when she's seen her. Why would she want to put her through that? 4)It felt like she hadn't read my text as she said exactly the same things she had said last night 5)She couldn't see D on Sunday morning because it interfered with her partying on Saturday so she wants to see D when it's convenient for her. Am I being overly sensitive? I haven't replied to her last message because I don't see the point.
