8, I am so sorry for your pain right now. You never know how you'll respond until it happens. I think you did great, your family should be proud. Try to maintain that positive demeanor NO MATTER WHAT. That is what will keep the door open for your W. It's heartbreaking to think about the kids, I know. Your W knows the pain she is causing and it would be so tempting for you to say "I hope you happiness is worth all the pain it is causing your kids" but DON'T DO IT. Focus on helping the kids through this trying time without badmouthing mom. Take the high road. My immediate advice is to go to a lawyer and check out your rights and what you can expect from her, a separation agreement is always preferable. The bright spot is that she has left you in a good spot re custody. She will have abandoned her children! You are therefore the custodial parent and can make all the decisions. She is entitled to access, that's it! As far as debts, again, check with the lawyer. Just because the truck is in your name does not relieve her of the financial responsibility as it is "family property". Once you have the info you can decide how to proceed. Knowledge is power, as they say! You have done so much and been through Hell, you have survived. Feel sad but know you've done and will continue to do the right thing. She will have to live with her conscience, yours is clear now. Keep us posted, we're here for you!!!!
